When it comes to navigating sex and relationships as Nigerian creatives, whether in the country or Diaspora, there are certain topics that we might find difficult to speak openly about- even when we have strong opinions about them.
Though we live in a world that is seemingly more progressive than ever; certain topics still remain touchy subjects or grossly inappropriate, especially as they relate to sexuality. Some might argue that a certain level of stigmatization is added to Nigerians, especially those with conservative upbringing. What about having children before marriage? Frowned upon by some and accepted by others… or polyamory- definitely “nontraditional” or offensive to some, or accepted.
Haven’t you wondered about these things at some point? So, why not confront them head-on…
We’ve asked some Nigerian creatives to share their thoughts on polyamory. What we received were colorful, honest responses that prove that it’s much easier to talk about these subjects than you might have thought. Read them below:
“I think it should be explored more…a lot of humans are polyamorous without even knowing it or accepting it and they hide under the guise of “I can’t stop cheating on my partner”, maybe if they discussed with their partner, they’d come to an understanding. I like to explore, and there’s so much love out there. I believe in having multiple soul mates.” – Zemaye, Female, 26
“While it works for some people, I do not think it’s healthy. One person may give into the other person’s desire, and get hurt in the process. I feel like if people start coming out as polyamorous, everything is just going to be weird…who doesn’t want to believe that their partner is faithful? It just doesn’t make sense. I don’t think the Nigerian society will accept such.”- Dosti, Female, 27
“It’s interesting…but I think that at some point, people would lose themselves. I did. I almost got to a point where I couldn’t remember what it was like to have and maintain a connection with someone. It’s too open-ended to be sustainable.”- Abdul, Male, 29
“Polyamory is a NO for me. I would rather be single and have fun with different guys than be in an open relationship. I doubt that there’ll be any need for commitment or trust in a polyamorous relationship.” – Tonia, Female, 26
“Morality aside, I don’t think I’ll be ready to explore it. However, I’d prefer Polygamy. At least we’re more than two, but we’re bonded by marriage.” – Ummi, Female, 26
“I don’t support or endorse it; even though religious and morality lines are blurred.” – Giant Ani, Male, 27
There was a visible level of consistency with the responses we got. Some bothered on society and morality…Are Nigerian creatives ready to evolve past the stereotype of traditional relationships? This remains a hotly debated topic.